Last 5 Surprises of New Fatherhood
It’s not only new moms that experience a fresh wave of stress following the birth of their baby — it’s the dads, too! Hence, the last 5 surprises of new fatherhood.
Your Relationship with Your Partner Will Change
Before you become parents, you and your partner spend a lot of time together, nurturing each other and making your relationship stronger. But once your baby shows up, everything changes: now the focus of just about everything you do is on your baby. You barely have time to sleep let alone do the things that brought you and your partner together in the first place. If at all possible, try to carve out some time, even if it’s only a few minutes a day, to spend talking with your partner — about something other than the baby.
You’ll Take Baby’s ‘Opinions’ Too Seriously
For the first six to eight weeks of life, your baby probably won’t give you much feedback about how you’re doing as a father: no smiles, no laughing, not much response in any way at all. In fact, just about all he’ll do is cry. It’s very easy to take your baby’s lack of enthusiasm as some kind of referendum on your worth as a dad. Don’t. If you back off, your baby will too. So hang in there for a little longer — it’s well worth the wait.
You’ll Learn New Ways of Being Loved
Over the next few months, as you learn to master your baby’s cues and meet his needs, your baby will learn to love you — and to express that love in the most amazing ways. And the first time that your baby coos as you or hugs you or falls asleep on your chest absentmindedly stroking your shoulder you’ll discover the true meaning of life.
Baby Will Teach You About Planning & Flexibility
Before you became a parent getting ready to leave the house meant grabbing your wallet and car keys and making sure the oven was off. But now, going on a trip to the grocery store with your baby in two takes as much planning as an expedition to Mt. Everest. That’s assuming that your baby doesn’t fill her diaper two or three times just as you’re walking out the door.
You’ll Talk About Different Things
If someone would have told you a year ago that you’d be willingly participating in long discussions with your friends about projectile vomit, leaky breasts, episiotomies, and the color and consistency of the contents of a diaper, you’d have laughed yourself silly. But you’re doing it, right? And you’re loving it too.