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Getting Pregnant Tip 3: Have sex—a lot!

When you’re trying to conceive, it gives you an incentive to hit the sheets all the time. If you have sex two or three times a week, you’ll be more likely to get pregnant fast. Some experts, including Stacey, say the ideal schedule is to have sex once a day, every other day, especially during your fertile time right before and after ovulation.

Sex positions to conceive baby
Hopefully you’re having a ton of fun making a baby, but you may also be wondering what position will boost your odds of getting pregnant faster. Believe it or not, scientific research hasn’t discovered any sex position that delivers better results than any other. You can get pregnant in just about any sex position. “The position you have sex in will not prevent you from getting pregnant and will not cause infertility,” says Rachel Gurevich, fertility expert and coauthor of Birth Plans for Dummies. So rest assured it’s okay to have fun experimenting and find a sex position that works best for both you and your partner. “One of the things to keep in mind when selecting a position is choosing one where both partners are comfortable and able to enjoy the encounter, as well as orgasm,” says Robin Elise Weiss, Ph.D.

Some people say that woman on bottom, man on top—missionary style—is more likely to get you pregnant. People think that since the vagina slants downward in this position, the sperm will go up higher and get into the fallopian tubes faster. You can try this position, but there’s no science behind this theory.

If you want, you can also try lying on your back after sex, bending your knees and tilting your pelvis backward at a 45-degree angle for 30 minutes. That may help hold in the semen. “The key is using gravity to work in your favor and help pull the sperm where they need to go,” Stacey says.

How long does it take to get pregnant? Most healthy couples trying to conceive who have unprotected sex frequently become pregnant in a year, according to experts. Still, sometimes you need some help conceiving, and there’s no shame in that. So if you’re not getting pregnant as fast as you had hoped or thought you would be, it might be time to see the doctor.

If you’re in your early 30s or younger and you and your partner are both healthy, actively try for a year without using birth control before speaking with your ob-gyn or a fertility specialist. Since fertility goes down as you age, you may want to get help at the six-month mark if you’re over 35. The sooner you see a doctor together, the more likely you are to get pregnant. “Some causes of infertility worsen over time,” Gurevich says. “And by waiting, you may be reducing the odds for success with fertility treatments.”

The key is to not blame yourself if you aren’t getting pregnant. Infertility is common—one in eight couples has trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy, according to a survey by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. And don’t assume you’re the “problem”; fertility problems may be linked to the woman, the man or a combination of factors.

Need someone to talk with? If trying to get pregnant is stressful, reach out to a trusted friend or family member. Also consider joining an in-person or online support group, so you can share your feelings with others going through the same experience.