Hearing the first cry of your creation is an intense emotional moment that can spark an epiphany that will make you think deeply about life. It will make you question the very essence of your existence and you also realize your responsibility to provide, nurture, and positively impact that Child.
Traditionally Africans believe the duty of nurturing and raising a child, is a domestic chore and so by default it becomes a task delegated to the wife (women), no wonder most Africans tend to be closer to their mothers and this is a flaw that needs to be corrected. There are things new African dads need to know and that is what this article is about.
So here are some things that will help you, your new baby and your marriage.
You’re not the “backup parent” You’re the father
As a father you are partly responsible for whatever your child turns out to be later in life, so the responsibility of raising that child is partly that of the father, the mother is a portal through which the child gets to this planet. You are a full, equal partner in turning a small, fragile sack of fluid and bones into a loving, decent, healthy citizen of the universe.
It is then expected of you to be active in raising the child, and this starts from infancy, and being involved in the child raising process helps in the bonding process. As a father, being passive in the upbringing process of your kids not only breeds disunity in the family, it also affects the child.
Your hands will get dirty
You’re now a daddy and raising a child with your wife is something you will both have to do together as a team, this means you’ll both have to take turns at certain duties, to keep things balanced in the house and yep, you will get familiar with the fragrance and moisture of baby wipes as you change the diapers of your child.
Spending time with your children from infancy helps you understand your children, and it also gives you the opportunity to meet a younger version of yourself.
Love Your Family
This is the most important part of being a father, your love matters so much to your family. Love your wife tell her your proud of her and express your love by giving her gifts and pampering her, your kids will be there to witness this. Love your kids too; for they are the manifestation of the love you share with your spouse.
Being a dad is a journey and having a child is the first step, you’ll learn and unlearn a lot of things as you go on, you’ll make mistakes and above all you’ll do a great job in creating a lasting African legacy the world will come to envy.